Let’s get one thing straight, elopement myths like “it’s rushed” or “not emotional” couldn’t be further from the truth. Eloping doesn’t mean running off in secret with no plan and no feelings. And it definitely doesn’t mean your day is any less special.
As an NYC elopement officiant (and part of a husband-wife team who’s helped hundreds of couples tie the knot their way), I’ve heard all the myths. And I’m here to bust them, one heartfelt, joyful ceremony at a time.
Let’s dive into the biggest misconceptions about elopements… and what actually happens when you say yes to a more intimate, intentional kind of wedding.
💥 Myth #1: Planning is Rushed & Last Minute
Reality: While you can pull together a spontaneous City Hall wedding in a week, most of our couples book months in advance. Why? Because they care deeply about crafting a meaningful, personalized experience.
We can help plan or advise on locations, timing (hello, golden hour!), permits, outfit changes, first looks, private vows, florals, photographers, dog outfits… the works.
✨ From the first email to the final “I do,” every elopement we plan is full of thoughtful details.
Need help planning yours? Here’s our step-by-step NYC elopement guide.
💥 Myth #2: Elopements aren’t emotional.
Reality: Cue the tissues.
There’s something incredibly raw and real about standing in the middle of Central Park or on a rooftop overlooking the skyline, speaking your vows with just your person (and maybe your pup, your parents, or your best friend holding the bouquet).
No distractions. No 200-person guest list. Just you, your love, and the moment.
Couples cry. We cry. Strangers walking by cheer. It’s deeply emotional and honestly, sometimes even more so than a traditional wedding.
💥 Myth #3: Misconceptions About Elopements Being “Fake” Weddings
Reality: Let’s redefine what a “real wedding” means.
There’s no rule that says love needs a ballroom to be valid. Whether you’re on the steps of the NYPL, in the Ladies Pavilion, or under a cherry blossom tree in full bloom sharing your vows, your commitment, and your love it is 100% real.
Eloping isn’t “less than.” It’s just different and often, more aligned with your actual values.
💥 Myth #4: You’ll Miss Out on the Fun
Reality: Who says?! You still get to wear the dress. Toss the bouquet. Pop the Champagne. Dance in the street if you want to.
Some of our couples even book a post-ceremony dinner at a beautiful spot like Quality Meats or celebrate with a romantic stay at The Bowery Hotel.
You’re not missing out, you’re curating an experience that’s actually fun for you.
💥 Myth #5: Elopements Are Just a Budget Option
Reality: Some elopements are budget-friendly. Others are luxe, bespoke, and indulgent. The beauty of eloping is that you choose where to spend your money.
You’re not obligated to feed 150 guests or rent a venue you don’t care about. Instead, you can invest in your dream photographer, a romantic hotel, your dream dress, or a killer honeymoon.
Eloping gives you freedom, not limitations.
Looking for vendors who get the vibe? Check out our favorite NYC elopement vendors here.
Ready to Bust the Myths & Plan the Elopement of Your Dreams?
Whether you’re NYC locals or flying in from across the globe, we’re here to help you plan an elopement that’s deeply personal, full of joy, and 100% you. Let’s plan a ceremony that captures your love story and creates memories to last a lifetime.
✨ Let’s toss out the rules and do it your way.
📩 Reach out today and let’s get planning.
Contact me today! Call or text me at (646) 456-4555 or email me at Jackie@JackieReinking.com. Here’s to love, laughter, and a lifetime of adventures together.
#TeamReinking Vendors:
- Officiant: Jackie Reinking New York Elopement Officiant
- Photos: Sascha Reinking Photography
- Team: Jackie and Sascha, the New York Elopement Team
